Beloved, come up here with Me! I am cutting those weights that keep you earth-bound, remember! Up here, you have a different perspective on your life. You can see more clearly, with fresh clarity, love and joy.
I see you struggle with the incongruity between the way you are in these times with Me and the way you are in the midst of stressful parenting moments. Years of habits come back in an instant. You react to your kids' sinful behaviour with firmness, harshness, hardness. I know you want a new way of parenting from this place of Peace. I want to show you how, Beloved.
Come up here with Me. See how I lovingly guide and train you. Is there any room in My parenting for harshness? Unkindness? Threats? Spirit of Punishment? No! These are traits of the enemy, not of Me. Darling, I want to show you how to parent from Love. It takes a change in the innermost place. It is not about making them comply with your will, to suit you! It is about teaching them in love to manage their freedom. This takes so much patience, kindness and love, Beloved. It will hurt you to let them experience their natural consequences. You will not "leave them to their consequences" in a spirit of spite or punishment! They may still call you mean, but it will not hold the sting of truth to your spirit.
Sweetheart, be soft. Be kind. Think of how things look from your children's perspective. Get down on their level and gently look them in the eye. Acknowledge their feelings, their points of view. Make the time for this. It is your responsibility to manage your time to allow for this. Do not take your stress out on them. Connect with your children and show them their choices - but not as threats! Not with force! Gently, kindly, lovingly and with understanding. Use laughter liberally. Don't take it upon yourself to quash their joy!! Beloved, embrace their joy! Learn from them in their unbridled fun, but train them gently but firmly and out of Love to rein it in. Teach them to consider others' feelings, both by word and example.
I discipline you, Dear One, but never from spite or a spirit of punishment. It pains Me to see you suffer the consequences of your choices. I do not watch with glee and think, "Ha, serves her right! Now she'll think twice about crossing Me!"
Fear has no place in your parenting. It is a shortcut to whitewashed tombs of legalism - kids who are looking good on the outside, making you look good, but the stench of rotting seeps out from the inside. There is no fear in Love, for fear has to do with punishment. (1 John 4:18) Perfect Love drives out fear. As you soak in My Perfect Love, fear will flee. It must! It cannot exist in the Presence of Perfect Love.
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